Q+A with Kerry Girling about Passions/Success
Recently, I had the opportunity to be interviewed by an author of a Success magazine. I wanted to share with you my answers to his questions. I felt this would be great opportunity for you to get to know me more personally. Read below.
- What do I do best?
(Tell us what you think you do better than anything else – personal or business related)
Definitely my ability to inspire other people.
Ever since I was young my mother looked at me as the child that brought laughter. This was the label she placed on me. I had a pasted smirk on my face literally all the time. I was mischievous, usually trying to get into some kind of trouble. It wasn’t often that I came out of my shell. I was reserved, spent time to myself for the most part, but whenever I needed to inspire someone I leapt out of my shell and stood for duty. I’m always up for good intellectual conversation about being a better person.
Story: Often times, even when I’m at parties and get together’s where we are supposed to be laughing and joking around, I’m having an in-depth conversation with my niece or brother or mom in the other room. I’d much rather succumb to a nice conversation on finding happiness, or finding your passion rather than binge drinking with the rest.
I’m able to interact with people about topics they wouldn’t even discuss with their best friend or closest relative, yet they share with me their entire life story. I then use the opportunity to inspire them somehow. This is what I do best.
- What makes me the best version of myself?
(Tell us the most important quality or characteristic that has gotten you to where you are today)
The characteristic that allows me to be my best version of myself is definitely my ability to remain calm when needed.
I don’t scare easily. In fact, I can’t remember the last time I was scared. I’ve dealt with plenty of mishaps, trials and triumphs in my life, and I have dealt with more than enough rejection, more so than anyone I know actually. But, that’s a good thing. I’ve learned so much from this, and I have built a solid foundation of core inner values such as confidence inner will. I have also built the ability to remain calm because nothing is really all that important in the overall spectrum of life. I learned this through tons and tons of rejection. There’s really no point in placing a high emotional value on anything material.
The reason why this characteristic specifically is the most important to be my best self is because I’m able to remain calm when an individual shares with me their life story; how they’ve been abused, or why they are suicidal. If I wasn’t able to do so I wouldn’t be able to leverage the inspiration. This seems to be the problem with parents and teen interactions these days.
- What are my aspirations?
(Describe both your: a. PERSONAL and b. BUSINESS goals, ambitions or desires)
If you had asked me this question a month ago I would’ve answered completely differently.
For nearly 18 years I focused on my aspirations as the youth motivator. Sleepless nights, long road travel and a ton of rejection led me to a career in speaking to over 1 million students. I mane it when I say I’ve faced more than a handful of rejections in my life. I’ve dealt with more mishaps than I care to embellish, but that has kept me strong. My aspirations recently changed due to my changing life commitments.
I have two wonderful children, Sophia and Olivia, age 3 and one. There’s nothing more that I love more than them. In fact, as you’ll notice in the answers below that they are the most important accomplishments to date. That being said, I have committed my time and efforts to raising them the best that I can. I’m grateful that I get to spend as much time as I want/need with them, and I’m sure they are happy that they get the chance to get to know their father more than most kids.
I’ve learned that materialism, money, anything physical really isn’t all that important in the overall spectrum of happiness. We are never going to achieve more happiness if we spend more time in the office. We aren’t going to be happy enough if we set bigger and better goals, and we are not going to be truly happy until we find enjoyment with what we already have.
Unfortunately society has led its people to believe that accomplishment is more important than it actually is. This may contradict a lot of what I’ve said in the past, but today I’ve become more enlightened. I’ve learned to understand myself; the core inner workings of my spiritual soul, and I have learned to understand that more accomplishment isn’t going to make me happy. I don’t need to write a 15th book, and I don’t need to speak to another school to paste a bigger level of achievement in my happiness belt. It’s just not going to happen.
Yes, I am grateful for all the things I’ve accomplished; the films I’ve produced, the 1 million students I spoke to, and all the other things that fell in between those accomplishments, but those accomplishments are really only important to me. They are as good as the stories that I will be able to tell. The Truth is; everyone else is focussed on their own lives and accomplishments.
That’s the end of my rant. My aspirations have changed from materialistic/money based to faith/spiritual based recently.
- My Biggest Success?
(No rules here. This can be anything in your life that you view as your greatest accomplishment to date)
My biggest successes are my children and the family that I’ve raised.
As far as the business/personal successes aside for my children, I would definitely say my film production entitled The Instigator.
I had a goal to produce a feature-length film about bullying to express how harmful it can be on someone. My aim was to distribute this film through the school system across North America to prove to kids how important it is to be respectful. But, in the realm of the production, I fell short of $80,000 to make it happen.
This is where gets good.
My creative mindset led me to incorporate investors into the project, where I raised the needed capital in less than three months. I was able to produce the project and everything went smooth. I made my money back and more in less than a year.
- My Most Challenging Moment?
(Tell us about a notably difficult personal decision that you believe had a meaningful impact on your life)
Recently I decided to retire from my passion as a youth motivator. I’m 36 years old and I have a lot of stamina left in me, but I wanted to focus on things that are a little more meaningful to me today; my kids and my family.
When I mean retire, I don’t mean that I gave it up for good. I mean that I’m not focusing on touring anymore, from school to school like I used to. I put nearly half of my life – 18 years into this career, and I’m grateful for my accomplishments in the field. I am just ready to move on to different hobbies and aspirations.
This was a difficult decision for me because my business was everything to me for nearly a decade and a half. I spent many late nights and early mornings traveling all across Canada and the United States, promoting positivity to troubled youth. And, I must say that most of my most cherished memories come from my career as a youth motivator, but I’m ready for new challenges in different fields of play. I want to focus on my hobbies and friendships that I let dwindle through the years. I want to focus on hobbies that include my family.
- My Motto?
(Tell us a personal mantra, saying or adage that you tend to live life by or believe in strongly)
I say a motto/affirmations daily. It focuses on everything I am grateful for. Here’s how it goes.
I’m grateful for my children; Sophia and Olivia. I’m grateful for my wife, Melanie. Grateful for my mom and dad and brothers and sisters. I’m grateful for the people I’ve come across; my colleagues, friends and acquaintances. I’m grateful for all the materialistic items that make my life more enjoyable. I’m grateful for all of my accomplishments. I’m grateful for my health and happiness and my family’s health and happiness. I’m grateful for life itself.
I speak this mantra/motto to myself daily usually in the shower or on my way to work every morning.
- My Favorite People/Role Models?
(Tell us your favorite people and/or role models, both business and personal)
It’s tough to focus on the ideal role model because of all the disrespectful things we’ve seen in the media. For example, Arnold Schwarzenegger whom was my all-time role model, he was convicted of committing unlawful acts against others. Tiger Woods was another one of my role models where he committed the same acts against others. Then, there is Jim Carrey, Kevin Spacey and Michael Jackson…
Yeah, I’ll just say that my dad is my role model. He has been a great father to me and I am eternally grateful for that. He always let me to do what I wanted, and he never held me back. I was his number one in his life. There wasn’t much else he enjoyed more than his children.
And, he stayed out of the media.
- My Favorite Places/Destinations?
(Tell us your favorite travel destination(s) or other place(s) that you enjoy)
As a farmboy from Saskatchewan, anywhere with peaks and valleys and hills or mountains is a destination with appeal. In fact, I have been to literally every nook and cranny across North America from coast to coast, and I can say that some of the best places I’ve visited aren’t too far away from my home. Now living in Calgary I often like to visit one of my most happiest and most favourite places to visit, Banff, Alberta. It’s a world-renowned destination for skiers and snow life, but it’s also an amazing place during the summer. Kayaking, mountain climbing, walks on the cobble stone bridge, and endless play is enough to say that this is my favourite by far.
- My Favorite Products/Objects?
(Tell us your favorite products, objects, items, tools etc.)
I’m not an overly zealous individual towards materialism. In fact, most of my written work depicts evil through this type of stuff. But, there are a few things that I have grown to love, materialistic things that have made me a happier person just by being there. These items are: my coffee maker, my nonstick pan that doesn’t need to be scraped when done using it, and my cell phone.
These Items make my life easier.
- My Current Passions?
(No rules here. This can be anything in your life that you are currently excited about or enjoy)
My passions are writing and being creative. There aren’t too many phases of my life where I wasn’t working on a project. Anything that taps into my creative side I enjoy. My passionate side comes out when I’m able to tap into my creativity.
Recently, I’ve focused on generating new passions and hobbies. I want to challenge my brain on other intellectual levels by pursuing various hobbies and activities that I’ve never done before. I will keep you posted and let you know how my passions change from today.
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